Some may not agree
Children look to their parents for guidance and actually need discipline. I remember reading one time how children misbehave looking for attention and actually are questioning what the boundaries and limitations are within the family. If a child is not given these boundaries and limitations they do not know what is expected of them and cannot be blamed for their misbehavior.
Clients can come in wondering why their child is mean or acting out. This child is looking for what their parent needs to provide them such as values, respect and responsibilities. They do not know unless they're told what is expected of them.
A child who refuses to do what is asked of them is not necessarily at fault if the parent has not taught them the rules of the home or provided them with expectations. A child who has been given too many choices, as a parent is trying to please them or make life easier, has now become the decision maker and will fight or argue when the decision is not theirs. This is not the child's fault because this is how they were raised. They had been given the choices and had been making the decisions so when they become teenagers this is what they expect to continue to do.
The subject of this post is "Some may not agree" with me and I say that because there are people who say you can't blame it all on the parents. I'm not saying that everything is blamed back to the parent but values, respect, how to communicate, and work with others it's something that should be taught by the parent and reinforced through time.
Clients can come in wondering why their child is mean or acting out. This child is looking for what their parent needs to provide them such as values, respect and responsibilities. They do not know unless they're told what is expected of them.
A child who refuses to do what is asked of them is not necessarily at fault if the parent has not taught them the rules of the home or provided them with expectations. A child who has been given too many choices, as a parent is trying to please them or make life easier, has now become the decision maker and will fight or argue when the decision is not theirs. This is not the child's fault because this is how they were raised. They had been given the choices and had been making the decisions so when they become teenagers this is what they expect to continue to do.
The subject of this post is "Some may not agree" with me and I say that because there are people who say you can't blame it all on the parents. I'm not saying that everything is blamed back to the parent but values, respect, how to communicate, and work with others it's something that should be taught by the parent and reinforced through time.
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